pstlyfdiva's Diaryland Diary

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Cliff Notes

Sorry I have been on radio silence lately...this fall has been a rollercoaster.

First my ankle – I had to wear my aircast for 10 weeks and ended up having to do physical therapy for it. It still bothers me and swells if I even think about doing more than walking to and from the car, but of course I do anyway.

C’s great-grandmother died a few weeks after I fell, so we went to MD for the funeral. I was glad I could be there for C; it was hard on her and very hard on her brother.

Work has been nuts. Since October 15th I have been out of town 15 days and I leave tomorrow again for 5 days. I just want to stop living out of my suitcase.

C is going through a period of self realization and that is creating some growing pains. She has realized that she needs to grow up, pull her weight and follow through on things. Which is great, but with that comes her admitting that she has not been doing all those things, which we both “ignored” for 4 ½ yrs. She knows that her past behaviors let me down (nothing malicious, more not following through on things). That admission opens up a lot of discussion that isn’t always pleasant.

One good thing is that she is listening to The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (well we both are, but it was recommended to her). We got through a couple of steps over the weekend and it gave us new language to use. It talked about relationships being like bank accounts and that you had to make deposits and that each time you don’t follow through on something or you break a promise, etc it is a withdrawal and the account can become overdrawn. I explained things in those terms and she finally understood that I have been teetering on a low balance and that I need those deposits to be able to trust that she will do what she says she will.

We have been through a lot together and I know we will get through this too. I actually think that this will make us stronger, but in the short run it makes things tough. You know how it goes; things get worse before they get better. Yes we are fighting more, which on the surface seems bad, but actually, it is good – we are communicating, we are expressing our frustrations and we are sharing. We fight fair when we fight, so this should move us in a positive direction.

Anyway, that is the Cliff Notes version of the last 3 months…it should be enough to pass the exam.

3:25 p.m. - 2006-11-20

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